Today I Pawned Off My 3 Year Old Daughter

The last few days have been really busy and a bit stressful around here and for some reason my 3 year old senses this like a Great White senses a nervous surfer in the ocean, and she kicks her drama queen act into high gear, and I fear it’s just to annoy me. She has literally brought me to a near breakdown and I’ve had to resort to yelling, which I hardly ever have to do, more than I’d like to. I don’t like yelling and raising my voice, I like to stay in control and calm – but sometimes, she manages to unleash the beast. And it’s just not one thing, she has managed to push all of my buttons, all at once.

– Her new thing is, whenever we get ready to go someplace and I open the van doors to load the kids in, and the van is hot inside, she FREAKS out because she says the car smells and she’s going to throw up. Yeah. So I have to open all the doors, crank up the A.C and wait for her to get ready to climb in and into her seat.

– She refuses to get out of the pool. She used to hate the water, but she has suddenly become a fish and loves to swim around in her floaty. I have 3 kids mind you, so when I say it’s time to get out of the pool – it’s time to get out of the pool. So as I’m drying the baby and getting her wet clothes off, I have to deal with my 3 year old swimming around the pool like a duck on summer vacation.

– She FREAKS out and throws herself on the floor whenever it’s time for her to clean up her toys that are all over the living room floor. I have to threaten her within an inch of her life to get her to pick anything up, and I hate threatening, because I have to follow through, which just creates more screaming and crying.

– If I ask her/ tell her to do something, she likes to tell me no, which is something I’m really working on with her – but again, when I’m having a stressful day and trying to do a million things at once – this in my mind is a huge deal which involves me yelling and holds me up on completing anything for a while longer.

It’s part of the terrorizing threes. People say the terrible twos are bad – but let me tell you from experience age 3 is the hardest age of all. I knew it was coming, but she picked the wrong time to put it into motion.

So last night I reached out to all of my local friends, those of course who had kids my daughters age – mostly her ballet friends and asked who would be willing to take my daughter off my hands for a few hours today. Surprisingly one of her friends moms agreed to take her for the entire day! So today I just have the baby to deal with since my son has a friend over, and they keep themselves busy in the basement. So today I can breath.

So do I feel bad about pawning off my daughter. Not one little bit. I need the break and hopefully she will be so worn out by the time she gets home she will pass out from exhausting and I’ll literally have a meltdown free day.

 

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13 comments
Gillian Stover
Gillian Stover

You do deserve a break! You are a good parent. the little cutie I am holding is my great-granddaughter--trust me, time goes by VERY FAST!!

Aneta Schultz
Aneta Schultz

I remember giving my kids a choice at around the age of 3 and that used to work for us. It gives them a sense of control but really what your doing is moving things along without the tantrums! Win win x

Kristina Knudsen
Kristina Knudsen

You have on your hands a 'threenager'. A three-year-old with the attitude and drama of a teenager. I feel your pain. No judgment here.

Eileen Kittinger-Watts
Eileen Kittinger-Watts

Yep. Would take age two hands down over age three. I referred to them as the "treacherous threes"

Cindy Gearhart
Cindy Gearhart

I have a 5 kids...24, 21, 16, 6, 4. So I totally get where you are coming from. My 6 and 16 yr olds are girls...the drama is NEVER ending with my girls. The other 3 are my boys... and let me tell ya... my 4 yr old can be just as bad/dramatic as the girls. I think all my kids have been at one point! lol I am a stay at home mom and would give almost anything to get a break sometimes. My breaks are few and far between. I wouldn't trade my kids for the world, but sometimes a break is needed and well deserved! :) You sound like and awesome, loving dad!!

Beth Linkous Rodney
Beth Linkous Rodney

Age 3 was the worst. My son skipped the terrible twos and hit the threes with a vengeance. I am dreading when my daughter hits it she is only 18 months but I was one of 3 girls and remember the drama well.

Liesa Ellsworth
Liesa Ellsworth

Don't feel you are alone - I got rid of my 4yo yesterday to my mums - the 3yo requested bedtime early (must be a blue moon) - needless to say it was a lovely peaceful night!!

Carolina Guntenaar
Carolina Guntenaar

so know what you mean 3 yrs little terrorists sometimes. enjoy those peacefull time offs to refuel for the next battles ; )

Cathy Creswell
Cathy Creswell

Dear Daddy Fishkins: I have 4 kids. Ages: 23, 19, 16, and 9. Those screaming days are OVER for me, but I can relate!! The first born was an oppositional kid. I'd ask something, she'd either say NO or just wrap her arms around herself and sit tight refusing to budge. Give her an option of choices, she'd say she wanted all 3!!!! Not just with me, but her Daddy Creswell who is wrapped around her finger. SO....no guilt. You had a PLAN, and put it into action. Good for you. Friends are amazing, aren't they?

Heather Scott
Heather Scott

I agree with Rosemarie below that giving a 5/10 minute warnings can help...making transitions at that age can be difficult and warnings might help....worth a try....

Stacey Burris
Stacey Burris

The drama queen stays on a girl..my grand daughter is 5 and OMG

Rosemarie McCutcheon
Rosemarie McCutcheon

I completely get where you are coming from. Everyone tels you about the terrible two's. No one tells you about the three's. My daughter was three march 1. We had the yelling match this morning and you feel bad. But you also want the toys picked up. One thing I found that helps with the pool thing, give them warning. In ten minutes we are going to get out, in five minutes. As a stay at home mom I get the break thing as well. Some days you want five minutes just to have a breathe.

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