Hate Comment Of The Day: I Shouldn’t Be Commended

Author : Megan

Comment:

I would be embarrassed to admit these things , and you act as though you should be commended!? You admit that on GOOD DAY you often go back to bed and sleep until 9:30, after which you put your babies in front of tv all day with chicken nuggets for breakfast, and they are still in their pajamas at 2:30? You are claiming that you now know how hard stay-at-home moms have it? I have three children that I homeschool, while also working as a birth Doula, and attending school for midwifery, and I wouldn’t admit to this negligence unless I had the flu or some other debillitating illness. Your wife might want to rethink who stays at home with the children. Good grief.

My response:

Megan,

I’m not entirely sure where I ever said that I should be commended. I was just pointing out the challenges that come along with being a stay-at-home parent. By your “proven” accolades you are by far the more superior parent because you are able to balance your day much better than I can.  Do you have any tips? Maybe you should write a book on how it feels to be the world’s greatest parent and not only how judgmental you are, but also very ignorant to make statements about how someone else raises their children.

Also you seem to be offended that I state I know how hard it is to be a stay-at-home parent because you juggle more than I do? And how am I negligent exactly? My kids are awesome, beautiful, intelligent, loved and cherished like no one else on this planet. You can check out my interview here and see how awesome my kids are.

My wife would also disagree with you, as well as hundreds of thousands of others. She supports me and the way I raise my children 100%. It just sounds like you are a bitter woman, who is quick to judge because you are pretty close minded about anything other than the delusional thoughts in your head.

Sincerely,

Daddy Fishkins

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28 comments
Sarah Smathers
Sarah Smathers

Yes, a bitter woman who has children who are ignored because she is so busy fixing the world and showing them how to do things her way.....poor kids.

Gillian Stover
Gillian Stover

I wouldn't be hiring HER as a Doula...I would probably be doing it wrong....

CL DeAza
CL DeAza

Well said! People are to fast to judge. We are ALL.going through somilar stuggles and I commend you for daring to write about and admit them.

Kari Grimes Dailey
Kari Grimes Dailey

She has no sense of humor. What makes your blog great is the tongue-in-cheek wit you use to describe your "job" ...and your wife & kids are gorgeous.

Crista L Madden
Crista L Madden

Bravo daddy fishkins I whole heartedly believe one parents parenting style has nothing to do with another parent my stay at home hubby does a wonderful job raising not only a 7 yr old type 1diabetic but also our 3 yr old grandson our rules may not work for some but they sure work for this family do what works and at the end of the day your babies will know you have done right by them once again BRAVO!!!!

Margaret King
Margaret King

No worries Daddy Fishkins. I was once told I was lazy because I wouldn't go overboard and make ten thousand (it seemed) decorations for some party at my daughter's school. Reverend the fact I got her up, fed and on the schoolbus, took Daddy to work, cleaned, washed and folded clothes, fixed lunch and took it to daddy, picked her up from school, drove 160 miles roundtrip to gymnastics practice, picked up Daddy, came home, fixed supper, checked homework, made sure my little gym rat was clean and in be, kitchen was clean and then tumbled into bed. When my daughter came home in tears because of what the little girl said her mother said I just laughed and told her not to worry about it. Each family Is different. They can think what they want but as long as we are happy and love each other who cares what others think. We can march to the beat of a different drum, we do not have to march to theirs.

Julie Stinson Battisto
Julie Stinson Battisto

She'd probably call child services on me. ;) My world is utter and complete chaos some days, but my kids are hail and hearty. I laugh at your articles because being the stay at home parent is HARD, harder than I every imagined when I worked in the "outside" world. Girlfriend needs to lighten up, I thought Doulas were calm and supportive?

Chelsea Bechtel
Chelsea Bechtel

Wow, no offense but my child does the same thing your kids do... My son would rather run around the house in his underwear all day than wear clothes... He eats chicken nuggets for breakfast as well, and he also eats cereal at the same time.... He comes into my room at 6am every morning and falls asleep next to me until about 9:30 and than we both get up... I feed my dogs and let them out while he is in his room getting dressed for the day, which is a pair of underwear.... This woman clearly thinks that your children have to be fully dressed, have a healthy breakfast (which chicken nuggets to me is healthy just saying, if that's all your kid wants to eat so be it) and study study study, where's the fun in that???? And as far as being negligent where are you being negligent???? Why because your kids would rather eat chicken nuggets rather than cereal?!? No, you don't force a child into eating something they don't want I've learned that one the hard way, my son throws his food at me if it's not what he wants.... Some people are very ignorant and think that the way they raise there children is the "right" way, don't scold other parents because you think that it's the right way, there is no right or wrong way of raising your children!!!! I wish more people would realize this!!!! You sir are doing a fantasy job of taking care of your kids.... Keep up with the awesome parenting!!!!!

Eileen Kittinger-Watts
Eileen Kittinger-Watts

I love your humorous angle on the life of the stay@home parent. Although my kids are now 19,15,12 and 11 reading your posts brings back a lot of memories of when they were younger. Keep up the good work. Life's too short to be the "perfect" parent, and it doesn't sound like much fun either. I hope my kids felt like I enjoyed them at those young ages rather than having too much on my plate.

Christine Albano Brazeel
Christine Albano Brazeel

Oh, good grief! Thank goodness she doesn't know me or my two and a half year old daughter that runs around naked most of the day and has a mop head of curls in her face because pulling her hair back in any way is cruel and unusual to her.

Nalin Sena
Nalin Sena

Ya, she totally missed the point. Wait... Homeschooling? So, she invents her kids entire schedule around her so SHE can go to school? Maybe she should homeschool herself in midwifery and see how that turns out. Ignorant, uneducated and opinionated to say the least. Megan, unless you're a stay at home father, you will never understand why we view our wives as superheroes.

Melissa Marie Livingston
Melissa Marie Livingston

Sounds like she secretly hates her life and has to overachieve to fit in. Sad. Parenting is hard work. It takes everything you have, but gives back a thousand fold and if your children are happy, healthy, and we'll adjusted then you've won.

Tracy Humphreys
Tracy Humphreys

I'm sorry but that woman is a judgemental arsehole! Your response is brilliant.

Kimberly Bolaños
Kimberly Bolaños

Some people need to feel superior just to feel good about themselves, which is just sad. Rock on, Daddy Fishkins. Your children are blessed with you.

Rose Satchwill
Rose Satchwill

EVERYONE has a different parenting style. I don't know why this woman felt the need to bash you the way she did!! That's just crazy. She sounds like a "know it all" that most other mom's probably try to avoid!! Keep up the good work,you are doing a wonderful job. Love reading your blogs..

Maria Bowland
Maria Bowland

I think you're awesome. Megan obviously has zero sense of humor and a rather large stick in her butt. You continue living your life and enjoy your children. By the sound of Ms. Perfect, her kids are going to be in therapy, possible axe murders, and chronic bedwetters..haters, that's how you know you're living right..lol

Lindsay Annis Bliss
Lindsay Annis Bliss

I think it's funny that someone who goes against the "norm" by homeschooling, being a doula (which encourages non-medicated birth) would be so critical. Again, please jump off that pedestal and join us commoners who do their very best everyday!

Anna Melerine
Anna Melerine

I think Megan needs to go watch the "being normal" episode of Spongebob :)

Maggie Rose
Maggie Rose

Those poor kids are homeschooled?? so they're stuck with her ALLLLL DAY?! haha I'm kidding. I'm sure she does her best. but that's what's wrong with a lot of parents. they're so quick to judge instead of realizing we're all just doing our best to raise well rounded, happy children. we're all in this together!!!!

Ann Doellman
Ann Doellman

Oh no.........another perfect parent. Why do they feel it is their obligation to rain on everyone else's parade? Ignore her, Daddy Fishkins. You're doing a great job.

Renae Smith
Renae Smith

Let's all applaud mother of the year... Megan! Seems she has it all sorted. I know I'm not a perfect parent and enjoyed your apology post because I could really relate to it! Don't worry about comments from people like her.

Krista Yeasley Garcia
Krista Yeasley Garcia

Absolutely none of her business to tell you how to raise them! You are a wonderful parent. In fact I do commend you on staying home with your kids! You are awesome!

John Paulson
John Paulson

I can tell you that everyday I feel accomplished just to get the kiddos thru the day safe and sound and I sacrifice a million things to make that so. I know other parents out there that make juggling 4 kids look like a walk in the park vs. the 2 I juggle while trying to be a work at home dad. I find your frankness and honesty enlightening and would never consider criticizing someone elses parenting style or the honesty you portray for the rest of us out there. Keep up the great work and ignore the "arrogant/perfect" self-proclaimed parents. So glad I found your blog which my wife pointed out.

Christopher Burton
Christopher Burton

Her poor kids. Does she teach them the same ignorance and arrogance on a regular basis? I love how you have shared so many stories that I myself have experienced over my 5 years as a stay at home dad. Are we perfect? Hell no, but we keep our kids happy, healthy, and alive. I'm glad she found the time to point out her accomplishments (far greater than ours for sure). Let's all hear it for the amazing Megan!

Christina Roth
Christina Roth

All of yours posts are clearly sweet, loving and very funny too! There is always someone who manages to be offended. She is probably just jealous.....as I can't imagine any other explanation. I would be more than proud if I was your wife!

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