I was reading back through some of the comments that I received on My Apology To Stay At Home Mom post, and one of them really struck a nerve. A guy named Matt decided to tell me how to be a parent, but get this – he doesn’t even have kids! Read his drivel below.
I started out reading this approving of the idea of explaining to people to troubles and tirings of a stay at home parent. I still do….however, from my own bringing up and understand of my parents sometimes crazy rules…
Why is your 3 yr old eating breakfast in bed and watching tv…i don;t view that an a good technique or process to teach them, and sorry just because its what she likes, doesn’t mean she should get it. The current generation is overly full of self importance and the belief the world should work for them. They should not get used to having what they want, when they want, how they want. When it comes to meals the when becomes important either way. Almost everyone younger than me (and some of my gen – i ‘m 27) is entirely directed by selfish instant gratification. Even playing games (video) is a stupid concept these days, everyone gets the game and wants their rewards for completing it right away. This causes cheating and bad play. This behaviour will spill out of that world and into the real world.
The other thing I got to before I honestly stopped reading (not having kids) was that if they getup at 7:30 they are in a bad mood because they got up early? As a child i was never in a bad mood early (ok i realise now we may be talking younger than i can claim that) but i always got up at 7:30am or earlier. I was always fully rested as i was given a bedtime that ensured that i was rested no matter what because that was the most important thing to my growth and learning. I don;t see the problem with the occasional treat late night to watch a favoured programme, as keeping your child happy is important. That was something i was very very rarely allowed and my childhood did have too many restrictions on and i wasn;t that happy, but I know why things were done and whilst they may have messed me up in some ways. The key points i was making taught me lots and some of them I talked to my mum about to understand them.
Just remember your not there to be a friend, you are there to be a parent (friendship hopefully develops obviously and later on in life it definately needs to start exisiting to continue to have a relationship).
everyone hates at least one of their parents to some degree when they are younger. Its a natural power struggle, and as a grown up you shouldnt lose
So after reading that – what do you think? Comment below.