Comment of The Day From A Guy Who Isn’t Even A Parent

I was reading back through some of the comments that I received on My Apology To Stay At Home Mom post, and one of them really struck a nerve. A guy named Matt decided to tell me how to be a parent, but get this – he doesn’t even have kids! Read his drivel below.

From: Matt

I started out reading this approving of the idea of explaining to people to troubles and tirings of a stay at home parent. I still do….however, from my own bringing up and understand of my parents sometimes crazy rules…

Why is your 3 yr old eating breakfast in bed and watching tv…i don;t view that an a good technique or process to teach them, and sorry just because its what she likes, doesn’t mean she should get it. The current generation is overly full of self importance and the belief the world should work for them. They should not get used to having what they want, when they want, how they want. When it comes to meals the when becomes important either way. Almost everyone younger than me (and some of my gen – i ‘m 27) is entirely directed by selfish instant gratification. Even playing games (video) is a stupid concept these days, everyone gets the game and wants their rewards for completing it right away. This causes cheating and bad play. This behaviour will spill out of that world and into the real world.

The other thing I got to before I honestly stopped reading (not having kids) was that if they getup at 7:30 they are in a bad mood because they got up early? As a child i was never in a bad mood early (ok i realise now we may be talking younger than i can claim that) but i always got up at 7:30am or earlier. I was always fully rested as i was given a bedtime that ensured that i was rested no matter what because that was the most important thing to my growth and learning. I don;t see the problem with the occasional treat late night to watch a favoured programme, as keeping your child happy is important. That was something i was very very rarely allowed and my childhood did have too many restrictions on and i wasn;t that happy, but I know why things were done and whilst they may have messed me up in some ways. The key points i was making taught me lots and some of them I talked to my mum about to understand them.

Just remember your not there to be a friend, you are there to be a parent (friendship hopefully develops obviously and later on in life it definately needs to start exisiting to continue to have a relationship).

everyone hates at least one of their parents to some degree when they are younger. Its a natural power struggle, and as a grown up you shouldnt lose

 

 

So after reading that – what do you think? Comment below.

 

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33 comments
Sarah Parker
Sarah Parker

He doesn't have kids and therefore is clueless to what reality of that day to day 24 hour life is like.....enough said!

Annie Takacs
Annie Takacs

The hating at least one of your parents comment was way off base. I don't believe that is the norm but it says a lot about this person's view on life and parenting.

Kate Carr
Kate Carr

" Almost everyone younger than me (and some of my gen – i ‘m 27) is entirely directed by selfish instant gratification. Even playing games (video) is a stupid concept these days, everyone gets the game and wants their rewards for completing it right away." The other thing "this generation" does, apparently, is comment on things with this inflated sense of self-importance like they know everything and obviously know how to do things much better than those that are doing by experience for what works for their individual situation! Just stop!

Tiffany Hurd
Tiffany Hurd

If you are going to try to verbally attack someone, please make sure your usage of "your" and "you're" are correct. I am sad for you Matt, because despite your up bringing, you seem to lack basic spelling skills. Ps. Smart phones have auto correct for a reason and proofreading before your post never hurt. Pps. Notice my usage of your and you're. They are correct. Thank you.

Gillian Stover
Gillian Stover

He comes across as somewhat of an arrogant bonehead from across the pond. To each his own. I hope he doesn't reproduce. I do believe that stick too far up his backside to have the sense of humor needed for parenting...

Paige Kittles
Paige Kittles

Sure, he's absolutely right in that today's generation of kids are self entitled brats who are seeking instant gratification but eating breakfast in bed while watching TV doesn't mean you are raising them to be brats. Also, some kids (and adults) wake up tired and cranky regardless if they got 5 hours of sleep or 10. Matt needs to learn not to be so quick to place judgment on someone.

Kamila Di Terlizzi
Kamila Di Terlizzi

Lol ... This guy is an idiot! I remember watching super nanny with my hubs before we had kids and just criticizing the parents like crazy! We would say naive things like. " our kids are going to act right cause we are going to raise them right" or "we would never let our kids do so and so..." Well sometimes ( and I mean a lot) parents need a break which means that we pick our fights. When the youngest was a baby I let my 3 year old eat in bed while watching tv because I needed to start the day without a fight after not gettin much sleep at night because the baby would wake up all night. My point is no one is perfect, not parents and not kids. And everyone has their own personal situation that can impact their parenting. You just do your best and as long as the kids are alive at the end of the day we are good lol

Cathy Creswell
Cathy Creswell

I should have written down everything I thought and had opinions on before I had kids. I remember clearly walking hand in hand with my hubby before we had kid no. 1. We and two other couples were walking home after getting a meal out and they were talking about diapers, poop, pee, accidents, etc., and my hubby said, " Wow, I can't believe they even feel a need to talk about this. There are more important things in the world than that!" Yup, you guessed it. A few short years later no. 1 was born, he cried and took immediate possession of her and he was WRAPPED several times around that finger. He talked not only about diapers, poop and pee, but vomit, spit up, getting kicked by baby while sleeping, feeding routines, colic, etc.... This guy is like all of us, he has pre-experience opinions he just wants to mansplian to the world. Awww, how cute.

Janet Sutherland Bavido
Janet Sutherland Bavido

I've always liked Dr. James Dobson's advice that life is already full of so many "No's" that a parent should try and say "Yes" as often as they can. I have 8 children, and it often seemed when they were little that I spent all day training them in the "No's" of life, so it was great to break out a "Yes" whenever possible.

Kristin Conrad
Kristin Conrad

Wow..... I have to say he is going to be in for a hellva shock when he has kids! We all realize doing things that dont seem right before we have kids are a totally different ball game when we do have kids. I swore up and down we were never going to watch tv and all kinds of foolishness. Now I realize if I want to poop alone or get some dishes done the Frozen DVD goes in and off I go!! What a moron!!

Tina Southern
Tina Southern

He has no children. He states he did not have a happy childhood and his grammar is horrid!

CL DeAza
CL DeAza

You dont need to be a parent to give advise. TRUE! BUT you are not allowed to be judgmental. We do not all have the same parenting styles but we certainly can learn from each other. Their is no ONE WAY to be a good parent and NO ONE is perfect. We are constantly learning. Parenting is mostly trial and error. I dont mind advise from non parents or parents BUT no one can assume to know or even understand our dynamic as a family or where we place our priorities. Meal in bed wont set a child up for failure and meal at the table wont guarantee a stable human being. We all do things others wont agree with and he is not the exception. Advise is ok, judgment is not.

Jill Grant O'Neil
Jill Grant O'Neil

As my friend HMM would say "what a douchecanoe"!!! His future kids are in for some fun times with that one!!! Opinions are like a****les everyone has one but no one wants to hear it!!!

Lana Bingle Yoho
Lana Bingle Yoho

Just wait until he has kids!!! I would like to see how he reacts to the tantrums.

Sara Slater
Sara Slater

Keep your opinions to your self!Nobody wants parenting advice, but ESPECIALLY NOT from someone who doesn't even have there own children. If the kid isn't being neglected or abused then mind your own damn business people! P.s I don't think letting your kid eat breakfast in bed while watching cartoons makes you a bad parent....is the kid happy and feed? Yes!? Then shut up! Just wait,one day you will look back at that comment and see how delusional you are....

Kelli Miller
Kelli Miller

How did you even get through that crap? How writing is painful at best.

Emily Daniels
Emily Daniels

What I got from that B.S. is that because his parents were funless and strict, that all kids should be raised that way. What an assface. You keep on, Daddy Fishkins. You rock, and I love your blog!

Cindy Boucher Andrews
Cindy Boucher Andrews

I love how he judges you for giving her breakfast in bed and says you shouldn't even though she likes it. But then says that an occasional late night is ok because it's important to keep a child happy!!

CJ Dowdy
CJ Dowdy

What an idiot. As you noted, he has no kids - so therefore, no voice. In none of your posts have I read that you think you're a perfect parent. I love your posts & totally respect that you're raising you 3 kids in the best way you possibly can; hilariously at that. Your stories are anecdotal and should be read in that spirit. And mostly you poke fun at yourself. I look forward to reading your posts every day and am bummed when you don't post a tale. What I love the most is that you're allowing your daughters to maintain and even build on their independence. Raising daughters & trying to balance their confidence with discipline is very difficult. Don't let this dolt ruin your day. He's not worth it. Not to mention, now that he's gotten your attention...he's getting attention he doesn't deserve.

Jason Laughlin
Jason Laughlin

I usually balk at people who brush off advice from people because they don't have kids. After all, single people can have good ideas and opinions just as freely as parents can have the worst advice ever. But this guy's advice SUCKS. I can be stern whenever necessary, but my kids are 3 and 16 weeks. I can be a friend if I want (for now,) and if my kid elects to eat ANYTHING that isn't loaded with sugar I count it as a W.

Alana Kornik
Alana Kornik

Walk a mile in my shoes buddy, then we can talk about parenting techniques and strategies!

Ashleigh Lisbeth Sweeney
Ashleigh Lisbeth Sweeney

First - he doesn't know your story or lifestyle or parenting style so who is he to judge?? That is my pet peeve and I AM a parent. Second - if you dont have kids, you have no idea and no room to talk. Its impossible to compare how someone (you don't even know) raises their kids to the way you were brought up almost 3 decades ago. Have a couple kids and stay home with them full time before opening your yap about someone you don't even know, jerk.

Jenny Luff
Jenny Luff

When and if this bloke becomes a parent it will all change, he is likely to become to worse of us!!!!!!!! Stupid man!!!!! Btw why does it seem like he still live sat home with his mommy?????

Kurt Lyons
Kurt Lyons

I am a father of two and raising my 18 month old grandson. I am the one who stays at home. I can totally understand where Mike is coming from. After a while you learn to pick you battles. Not that I let him run me all day long, but there are other things I actually have to accomplish during the day. Matt is a moron!

Georgia Brown
Georgia Brown

I think his points have some value, and you don't have to be a parent to have relevant thoughts and concerns about the upbringing of children. Childless teachers, aunts, uncles, pastors, neighbors, family friends etc all help contribute to the growth of children.

Lynne Maloney
Lynne Maloney

All I can say is Wow! This guy has nerve!! I am a Mom of a 6 yr old girl and if this guy or anyone else decided to tell me how to be a parent,he/she would be told off in no uncertain terms!!! You are obviously a great Dad & I applaud you! :)

Britnee Irons
Britnee Irons

I have no words for this. Just wow. Some people blow my mind. Even if this person WAS a parent, this is just absurd. I'm a mother of three, ages 7, 5, and 3. And sometimes we stay in pajamas all day, sometimes we eat a meal in front of a movie. I let my kids pick what we are all having for dinner or lunch some days. But whenever people meet my kids, they always say how polite and we'll behaved they are because giving into the little things isn't always a bad thing. I haven't followed your page long, but I love reading it! Keep up the good work!

Michael L Ward
Michael L Ward

OMG, First why does he care so much about what your family does. Secondly; I don't do things the way you do , but I certainly don't feel the need to judge you for the way your family operates. I read the blog/facebook page because I enjoy and can relate to the craziness of multiple kids vs. one parent. It can be all out war sometimes and hearing another's thoughts (especially another SAHD) is somehow comforting. Knowing I am not the only one fighting these battles and enjoying the rewards is awesome.

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