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The Challenges Of Raising A Daughter

I’m sitting on the couch yesterday morning typing away on the laptop, much like I’m doing right now, when I hear this beautiful angelic voice call out “daddy” to my left. As I glanced over towards the stairs where she was standing, my 3 year old daughter was standing there smiling completely butt naked.

“Baby, why are you naked?”

“Because Dad I’m trying to put on my wedding dress!”

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My heart stopped. Mainly because the realization hit that one day, without being naked of course, my daughter will be standing before me in a real wedding dress, getting ready to start a life and a family of her own.

Okay – enough of the mushy stuff.

My daughter doesn’t quite understand that girl’s can’t take off their clothes in front of boys, or anyone EVER as far as I’m concerned. For instance, my son takes his shirt off when he’s outside playing in the hose – she wants to know why she can’t take hers off. I take my shirt off in the pool, again she wants to know why she can’t take hers off, and I don’t really feel comfortable with trying to explain, if I even knew how, why. That’s just another one of the challenges that I face as a dad trying his best to raise a daughter. So my answer to her is simple: “They just can’t.”

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Of course that doesn’t satisfy her – hell it doesn’t even satisfy me, but it’s all I got. Hey I’m learning everyday, but its hard to try to teach a girl that she has a different set of rules than her older brother that she idolizes.  I absolutely love having two daughters, they have single-handedly changed my entire view of life and how I interact with people of all races/creeds/religions/gender and personal lifestyles.

Now back to the wedding part:

Dear future son-in-law,

I will absolutely destroy you if you ever disrespect my beautiful, can-do-no-wrong, angelic, Princess.

That is all.

Sincerely,

Daddy Fishkins

 

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8 comments
Christine Albano Brazeel
Christine Albano Brazeel

Let her go topless. We Americans are such prudes. She doesn't have breasts yet, so why make her cover up?

Margaret King
Margaret King

I grew up in the south. I went "topless" in the summertime until I was around 8 or 9. No big deal. By the time I had reached that age I had figured out at some point there would be shirt time forever. #tobelittleagain

Chelsea Poll
Chelsea Poll

That rule is unfair. You need to think about what you're saying to all three of your kids by enforcing it...your son's comfort matters, and your daughters aren't in charge of their own bodies to the same extent...it's one of those things I didn't notice until my kids asked me about it...

Sheree Meaney
Sheree Meaney

Why not just let her? She looks just like a boy until she hits puberty and then you can explain about the stupid laws that are the reason she cant take her clothes off. This way she is treated just like her brother and doesnt ever get the message from the strongest man in her life that becauee she is a girl she is some how lesser or incapable of doing what a man can do.

Freida Atwell
Freida Atwell

I have the same problem except mine is six (almost seven) and we have had to discuss parts of the body and that no one should touch them, and she sort of understands that

Jessica Burley Kelly
Jessica Burley Kelly

Cause she had special parts that boys are lucky enough to have... And also teach her, those parts are better then gold, and worth more then most boys will ever have.

Cyndi McCool
Cyndi McCool

Lol Awww.. Raising a baby girl is hard yes compared to boys but I wouldn't change it for the world..

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