Bi-Polar Rant Of The Day: The Grocery Store Mom Incident

Yesterday I was at the grocery store buying a few essentials and while I was selecting my favorite cookies, chips-a-hoy chocolate chip,  and there was this lady behind me with two little boys in her cart that were probably about 3 and 5 years old. The lady had a stack of coupons and a cart load of stuff, she looked like she was doing the whole couponing thing, and her kids were sitting pretty calmly in the basket. It sounded as if they were asking for something, as all kids do in the grocery store, and all of a sudden she snapped, leaned down and put her face close to her child and said, and I quote:

If you don’t shut up I’m going to punch you in the face!

 

It wasn’t one of those moments as parents where we might say something we wouldn’t normally when we are stressed – she said it in a very aggressive, hateful way. It made me uncomfortable and I felt sorry for the child, but I didn’t intervene. I wish now I would have, but at the time I think I was more shell shocked than anything.

So last night on my facebook page I posted her picture and gave a brief account of what happened and the post went nuts. Lot’s of people were extremely upset, they were un-following my page and I received quite a few hate mails, which I really didn’t understand. I couldn’t understand why people were sticking up for her. I finally removed the thread to stop the negativity and hate that was filling up the thread, but now I wish I hadn’t of.

There is absolutely NO reason for a mother to talk to a child in that manner. I was treated that way as a child and all it does is instill fear in the child. If you have some sort of an excuse for this kind of behavior I don’t even want to hear it. Unlike my Facebook page if you want, send me hate mail, do whatever you have to do, but in my opinion it is wrong, hateful and has no place in raising a child. I’m bi-polar and I deal with kids shopping all the time, and I’ve NEVER even come close to saying such hateful things to anyone of my kids. If you are one of these types of parents you should be ashamed and embarrassed and rethink the way you raise your children.

That is all.

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28 comments
Janell Bailey Kelleher
Janell Bailey Kelleher

You are right on! In my worst moment I never threatened to punch my child in the face or anywhere else for that matter!

Jackie Hand Dewolf
Jackie Hand Dewolf

I absolutely LOVE that you said you were bipolar with no shame. Signed, Fellow bipolar :)))

Melinda Ireland
Melinda Ireland

I actually can't believe anyone defended what that mom did. It's definitely the kind of thing where if it were overheard in a physician's office, the physician would potentially be legally obligated to report it to the authorities. Not that I'm faulting you, I'd be too flabbergasted to confront the situation (and, to be honest, the introvert in me would probably be horrified into silence at the idea of causing 'a scene'). But even putting myself in the shoes of a person who supports spanking, it's clear that spanking and punching a kid anywhere, let alone *in the face* are two very different creatures. Threatening to punch a child in the face is no less offensive, because it DOES make you wonder what goes on in private, if she's absolutely willing to threaten her child with egregious violence in public.

Karen Morin
Karen Morin

I think posting the picture might of set people off but f that she deserves to be called out for being a sucky person.

Tegan Czajkowski
Tegan Czajkowski

Threatening your child with a fist vs threatening an adult with a fist. If carrying out the threat in BOTH situations is wrong and illegal, why would the threats not be equal? Threatening a child with a fist, under any circumstances, is abhorrent. A smack on the butt or hand for doing something wrong is ok by my standards, but to get in your Childs face and threaten them with a closed fist? No way. Only time you should bē punching a child is when they're getting big enough to wrestle and need a dead-arm to remind them that they may be a tall teenager but you're still the boss with the butt big enough to sit on them.

Jenn Rock
Jenn Rock

I totally agree with you. I would have said something! There is no way I would just walk on by this. I dare someone to say its none of my business. If she's like that at the store in public wtf happens at home?

Alana Kornik
Alana Kornik

I found the whole situation disgusting. Personally I would have said something because that kind of behaviour towards any child let alone your own flesh and blood to be dispicable. I would of stood up for that child and told the "mother" off. Regardless of how frazzled we get composure is a basic requirement of being a parent. If you can't handle couponing and it results in you being stressed and taking it out on your children with the threat of harm and violence then you've got some serious issues and need to readdress how you handle your grocery shopping and other activities. Don't apologize for being willing to stand up against child abuse if people want to unfollow you then good riddance

Misses Ells
Misses Ells

I agree with you totally! It's one thing to lose your cool, I know how frustrating shopping can be with two little boys, but that was unacceptable.

Jocelyn And-Mattielyn Hellwig
Jocelyn And-Mattielyn Hellwig

AMEN! I would have contacted authorities, myself. If she is talking to them this way there is most likely physical abuse happening also.

Mary Jo Spaulding
Mary Jo Spaulding

I actually am no longer following another blogger because she slammed you for your post. She felt you were unnecessarily shaming another parent, we should all support each other, and parenting is super hard. Yes, we need to support other parents, and we all get overwhelmed, but as someone else said, if this is how she acts in public, what is going on at home?

Janet Sutherland Bavido
Janet Sutherland Bavido

I'm glad you posted it. No one should yell and be hateful to children. I also despise people who are quietly hateful to children. Over the years I've been to two talks where the speaker (a woman each time) spoke with sympathy of moms who scream at their kids. Neither of them agreed it was right, but they were sympathetic. Well, I have no sympathy! My dad was not a great guy, but I've realized as an adult that he said some really great things. One was, "If you wouldn't act like that to your boss, don't act like that to anyone else. If you can show enough self-control not to get yourself fired, then you can certainly come up with that self-control in other situations. You have no excuse for "losing it". "

Kathy Daniels
Kathy Daniels

I agree with you completely. My children are grown and starting families of their own. When they were little I lost it on many days. You don't threaten to punch a kid!! I have a theory that we treat our kids better in public than we do at home. If she is saying that to them at the store, what the hell is she saying (and doing) at home? It's one thing to loose it and tell them your going to spank their little butt, it's quite another to want to punch them in the face!

Ivy Jones
Ivy Jones

I'm diagnosed with bipolar disorder and still manage to keep my cool with my babies! And I could tell by the basket she was an extreme couponer which becomes a disease for some. Like "Don't f****g talk while I'm couponing." She was wrong! Glad your child hood did not affect your parenting! I always say I'm glad for my mother's mistakes because I learned from them! Her mistakes made me a better mother to my babies....

Dani Taruc
Dani Taruc

I agree that this is something you should never ever say to a child and i have no problem with you posting that i totally understand buuuut and here comes my but as a person who is suffering from Bi polar disorder i wish you would have chosen a better title i really do because it makes it look like Bi polar people would treat there kids like that. I have 3 Children 1 Girl who is 4 and 2 Boys 3 and 1 and even if i am Bi polar i never ever would say such a thing to my children no matter how crazy it gets. I do not judge and i love your site and i never would unfollow you because you did that. I just wanted to write how i feel about it .

Lindsey Morgan
Lindsey Morgan

yeah pretty sad when people treat their kids like that...

Miranda Brown
Miranda Brown

There is no reason to threaten a child that way. And sadly she probably is that rough with her children, hence why the threat was made in the first place. I don't know. I would never even think to threaten my children in such a manner but that's just me.

Lacey Rowe Richardson
Lacey Rowe Richardson

I agreed with you last night and I agree with you today. To many children die at the hands of their parents everyday. It's no joke!!

Cristal Cloud
Cristal Cloud

We do the best with the tools and coping mechanisms that we have. Some days are better than others but I hope I never get that far off center especially with my sons. Stay true to yourself sir!

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